Q. My child’s mother and I hooked up at a party our last year of college. We were never officially together, although we tried to be once she found out she was pregnant. We are from different cultures and do not see eye to eye about how to raise our son. I am stricter and want my son to follow my traditions, but his mother does not support them. Our son is now 4 and I have concluded that we absolutely cannot co-parent, yet the courts continue to think we can and it’s making it very difficult on our son. What’s good ex-etiquette? A. The courts are not making things difficult on your son; you an…